As someone who was raised among Narcissism, both from my mother and other close family relatives. Because of this, what I’ve noticed, learned, and lived has lead me to believe that Narcissism is without a doubt, genetically dominant if the environment favors the factors.
When I was a child, I recall my mother, along with grandmother always craving to be center of attention. When it came down to my Grandma, this was far more noticeable. However, where my mother is concerned, she was always more covert about it.
The older I got, the more I began to realize a subtle but definite pattern of behavior. There was a severe lack of empathy that existed among a lot of the women in my family—some men, too. This lack of emotion made conversation difficult, especially confiding in others.
I always felt like I was in the shadows of everyone else’s ego. Once I began researching facts about Narcissistic Personality Disorder, there was more than I had intended to discover. Come to find out, there’s actually 3 major types of Narcissism—all 3 have different sub-types.
If I had to guess, I’d say my mother falls under the category of a Covert Narcissist. Although, she loved attention, she did not behave in an Overt, or Grandiose manner—it was far more subtle than that.
On the other hand, my grandma was a bit more Overt and out there. She loved to be wanted and admired by others, being the center-of-attention. I loved my mother and my grandma, dearly! Although, at times, I struggled with the difficulty of attempting to explain my emotions to a person whom lacks empathy—now that’s a challenge!
There were many similarities in the behaviors between my grandma and mother. This had lead me to believe that Narcissism is without a doubt, an inherited behavior. I had other relatives who were Narcissists, but when you are a child you don’t have the understanding to draw conclusions.
The infamous Joan Crawford is the basis for the 1981 blockbuster movie, “Mommy Dearest”—based on the account given by her adopted daughter, Christine.
I don’t think we can rely strictly on Mommie Dearest as an objective source. That said, where there’s smoke, there’s fire, so to speak. Personally, I think there is a very strong likelihood that Joan Crawford was indeed a narcissist, based on her adopted daughter, Christine’s recollection and account which turned into the movie “Mommy Dearest”.
If unaware of what mannerisms to watch out for from someone suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder, I’ve made sure to incorporate facts to help you all better understand exactly what a Narcissist is.
The symptoms of Narcissism range from an array of behaviors, as seen above. In order to fully understand, we must first know the Symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
The dynamic that this brings to a relationship can be quite testing, unless you are okay with standing in the shadows—while they enjoy the spotlight.
The universe has this ironic way of bringing polar-opposites together, whether it’s in the persons best interest or not. As the saying goes, “what goes up must come down”—perhaps, “if the shoe fits… then, wear it”. The irony of Narcissism is that most Narcissistsi are attracted to Empaths. However, this can be emotionally exhausting on an empath.